I was chatting with Kalinara today when she asked for advice on her blogpost. She wanted to know if she should keep or jetison a paragraph.
It reminded me of when I lived in San Antonio when I was 19, and I had a 24-year old friend named Liz. Liz and I would go shopping and see movies and generally hang out, and I almost always turned to her when I couldn't decide between two options. She always had a clear and confident choice when I asked her. I think it had something to do with the fact that Liz had an opinion on everything; she informed me of the difference between Tex-Mex and Mexican food, that skinny cowboys with freckles are hot, and that only sluts wear red.
She also informed me that I was both deceptive and straightforward, which still makes my brain hurt a little to process.
One day, Liz asked me why I always asked her to make my decisions for me. I hadn't even realized that was what had been happening. She informed me that I did it all that time, that she knew I'd decide on whatever she said, and that she sometimes just chose the option that was the most amusing option. Usually, she didn't give a shit and just randomly picked one and inwardly rolled her eyes at my sheepyness.
I suspect that was what prompted me to go into my red clothing phase (Kalinara would like to add "For the record, I'm not letting you pick out my clothes" to this part of the post) , but I'm not sure. I do know that this wasn't the only time Liz's casual dickishness taught me a valuable lesson, and for that I'm grateful. Even if she did have really shitty taste in food.
And comics. She only bought Meridian, Tarot and Witchblade, for heaven's sake!
Nevertheless, I miss Liz. She was my Wednesday comic-book buddy for over a year. I think she went back to Wyoming after she left the service. I hope she got the job and family she wanted.
I ended up giving Kalinara a completely random choice, because Kali picks whatever the fuck she wants anyway. I'm not sure whether that's indicative of the influence Liz had on me or the influence Kalinara has on me.